Horse / Life Balance

Horse / life balance – is that even a thing? I think it can be, although it just seems really hard sometimes. Having horses is a 24/7 commitment and sometimes it just isn’t possible to not spend all of your free time up at the yard. But as much as I do totally eat, sleep and breath horses and I love the lifestyle with all of my heart, I need a break sometimes too – a bit of ‘me’ time. I know right, me time, what even is that!?

On a serious note, I totally get it. I really enjoy going to the stables and I often find that’s my little place to escape for a few hours. But when life is busy and the stables are busy and the weather is crap, it isn’t always going to be the sanctuary we would like it to be. I almost always turn down help for Hamish unless I’m actually away; I love going to see him and I feel bad when I miss out on putting him to bed – which is probably ridiculous, I’m well aware! However, I’ve recognised that sometimes it would actually be nice to have a bit of ‘me time’ and some free time to spend with the other half. God, as I am writing this post is sounds so mean, but I’m sure you’re all still following me and nodding away in agreement, well at least I hope so!

So, the question is, how do we get the perfect horse / life balance? The truth… we don’t. Nothing is ever perfect, but we can certainly make it better, with just a few small changes. Read on if you want to know my recipe for equi-librium (do you like what I did there?).

Make your horses day off, your day off too. When Hambo has a day off, I give myself a day off too. He has his tea, a brush and a check over and back out in the field so that I can get home at a good time (6pm!!) to enjoy a nice meal and watch a film.

Plan an upcoming ‘non-horsey’ day. Plan for a friend to help you with your horse for the day or organise for your yard manager to help. Give yourself a lie in and make some plans or make no plans at all, do absolutely anything you fancy, it’s your day after all!

Organise your time. I plan my riding schedule the week prior. This way I know my busy days and I know when I can be more flexible. For me it really takes away any stress / rushing around like a ma-woman trying to fit everything in at the last minute, because there really is nothing worse.

Organise your duties in advance, where possible. Make up hay nets a week in advance, make up feeds the night before, do your chores in the morning. All of these things can help you to stay on track and stop you from having to spend hours each day doing chores, when actually you probably just need to get home! It also allows you to spend more time at the yard enjoying your horse and not just doing all the boring bits.

Look after yourself, too. How often do you actually take time to look after yourself. Run yourself a bath with some luxury bath oils, get all your special skin care out and just make yourself feel a bit pampered and looked after, too. You deserve it!

How do you get that horse / life balance? I would love to know your tips and I am sure everyone else would too – We all feel a bit ‘over cooked’ sometimes. As always happy Monday – I hope you’ve all had a fab one!



  1. August 25, 2018 / 7:39 pm

    Very important message. Thank you

    • forelockjournal
      August 26, 2018 / 1:32 pm

      So pleased you enjoyed this – thank you! xx

  2. August 26, 2018 / 8:58 pm

    I’m lucky as my pony lives out at a busy yard but I still go to visit her at least once a day. I’m particularly worries about how I’m going to balance everything in the winter when the days are shorter as I’ve got a different job this year and the hours are long! My plan is to ride before work in the hope that it will be light but I know this is going to mean a. I won’t be able to hack with others and b. I’m going to feel rushed! Nightmare

    • forelockjournal
      August 27, 2018 / 2:56 pm

      Oh lovely, that suds ideal! Hamish is out at the moment too but won’t be long before he’s in at night for winter. Riding early sounds like a plan but I know how you feel with the rushing before work!! Do you have a school with lights you could use in the evenings? Weekends will always be nice for hacking out with others too (if you have weekends off!), so thats two days down! I always find once you’re in the routine it’s fine, just sometimes the thought of a new routine seems daunting. Please feel free to contact me and we can chat all things winter routines and soggy ponies in the winter, if you’re ever feeling fed up! xx

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